Notes from Wait is Not a Four Letter Word, By Rotimi Iyun
I was also up to reading this Rotimi Iyun’s o so hilariously put together, yet, deeply spirited book dedicated to single women. It was such a good read, with a lot of notes taken by me, from which I’m sharing a few. Many blessings to her for pouring out so seamlessly, and to Chioma for making us, at the singles women club, to read it.
I’d share some notes according to the book chapters.
- Wait- whose fault is it anyway?
“this fundamental difference (between the way we see time & the way God does) creates significant tension as we count out days and hours while God is looking at the overall purpose He has planned for us.”
- Wait- I already had my chance
“God has promised beauty for ashes and the oil of joy for morning- take him up on his offer”
- Wait- you mean forever?
“living your dreams will not preclude your husband from coming, it will quickly showcase the ones who are not going in the direction God is leading you.”
- Wait- I’m burning here
“settle it in your mind and heart that you want to stay free from fornication and sexual sin”
“respect yourself enough to place the same value on you that God does”
“you need to put checks in place to help you keep pure because your will cannot always be relied upon to keep you out of trouble”
“we need to ensure we are building ourselves up and not setting ourselves up for sin”
“you need to fight impure thoughts with God’s word”
“make up your mind that you will live sexually pure before God, and don’t be afraid to let other people know your struggles”
- Wait- about that biological clock?
- Wait- it’s a life skill!
“understanding the why (marriage is important to you) will not only help you gain clarity on your motives, it will help you identify disparities in potential spouses motives… (and) brings to light the things you need to address”
“understanding what you are expecting from marriage will help determine what you need to give to get what you want”
- Wait- who am I waiting for?
“everything may not look the way we want it to. We may not get everything we ask God for, but when we trust God to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves, to see beyond our earthly limitations to a future that only He can see; He will surprise us with the best of what we need as only God can do”
- Wait- it’s an action word!
“waiting becomes easier when we understand what we need to be consumed with during that period”
- Wait- now what!
“… are you able to set aside your feelings and longings… to rejoice with the person who has the good news now?”
“God, not time, will heal all wounds and restore your heart to a place of health and joy as you stay open to him”
“Give your fears to God and trust that he has your best interest at heart”
“… stop the cycle of hurt with healing only God provides”
- Wait- you’re not helping!
“there will be multiple times when some single lady around you will grow tired, and her hands will hang down. Be sensitive to the need around you and lift up those weary hands. It’s not always in words; it’s never an act of pity- it’s a sign of solidarity, a token to say we are in this time together and I am here when you need me”
- Wait- we’re not done yet!
“what makes living a worthwhile alternative is faith”
“we need faith. We will only be able to live by faith”
“… faith speaks the word of God to circumstances around it. Faith believes the promises God has spoken. Faith acts on the instructions God has given. Faith hopes even in the face of the impossible.”
“waiting is letting go of a compromising alternative because you trust there is something greater ahead of you”
“don’t forget that God has been faithful in the past. Remind yourself of what God has done for you, your friends and your enemies, then wait for His plan for you to unfold.”
“don’t move ahead of God and compromise your standards”
“the time of waiting… is a time of expectation that concentrates on the joy set before you and prepares you to enjoy the fulfilment of the promise”
I hoped you enjoyed reading along.