The Things We Actually Miss

A lot of times, I am not corrected of a wrong because it is assumed I should know better. Sometimes, when I share my weaknesses, it serves as a disappointment.

Other times I’m considered inadequate to perform a task or appropriate for a debased assignment.
So I ask, when did I stop being human? When did I stop acting like one? Or is it totally not a fault of mine? Did people suddenly start having illusions of me? Have I become a god or an animal?

I know of doctors who should be helped by news men, health wise, but miss it because ‘they should know better’. I know pastors that need to be corrected in love but miss out because ‘they are the lord’s anointed’. I know stars who are let to rot in pride when they should be taught a thing or two about loyalty and humility. Even servants are used and not appreciated. Whose fault are these?

If I don’t address you as ‘Revd Dr’ is it an offence? If I dine with my servants am I crazy? If I laugh with my students am I foolish? If I dream to be great am I greedy?
Am I not being cautioned for a wrong because I’m a sister in the lord whom only the lord speaks to. Am I insulted because I only sweep the roads every morning?
Or don’t I dress well enough? Or speak well enough? Can’t I ever go wrong? Are my errors mistaken for a trend?

I was trained to avoid peer pressure. I was shaped to fit into the society.

It seems peer pressure doesn’t end with adolescence. It’s obvious the society often changes its values. So…

I’m breaking out. I’m thinking hard. I’m being me. I’m learning. I’m failing. I’m being the best with each opportunity.

Disclaimer: this is not the story of my life!!!


(A) New Opportunit(y)ies

Hello my beloved readers. It’s a happy new year. I wish you God’s best in this 2014…

Publicite: Today’s post is inspired by a TRUE friend’s story…

So, this friend tells us in a group chat some real funny stuff about the winter cold and shares some sordid pieces of advice by her neighbours on managing this cold.
She also tells about her mini job experiences-good and bad- the days she laughed and the days she wept.
She concludes by telling about God’s provision through people who never knew her before and how God has kept her in a place far from home…

So, this is the 1st post of the year and its prophetic! (Lol!)
Many things are going to happen this year, they’d draw both tears of joy and pain from us and we’re Going to see God through them. This is a ‘no letting God out of our situations’ year… (For me, at least)

A lot of us crossed into this new year with sober reflections and good resolutions. But people, nothing is good without the lord (simple!)
It’s either we’re letting him take us into our ‘gardens of eden’, walk us through ‘the valleys of the shadow of death’ or we’re on our own…
This is the new year but funny enough it has in it the festivities of the former years- valentines, easter, mothers’ day, fathers’ day, childrens’ day, workers’ days, birthdays, even christmas, then the 31st december’s 11:59pm…
So what is new about the year? OPPORTUNITY/CHANCE…
That is what is new about this year- a whole 365 days as chances/opportunities to utilise God’s grace, providence and all he supplies…

So, like my friend’s story, we will have different good and bad experiences, and we will have God supplying and meeting all our needs… But we will have our selves making use of all of HIS OPPORTUNITIES or abandoning them and letting them pass by like the previous years.

It’s a happy new year people and I wish you God’s best!!!

The Bible

I read Matthew 16 from The Message bible and some words from Jesus so struck me that I had to blog …

V25- ‘don’t run from suffering; embrace it.’… How? Response: ‘… follow me and I’ll show you how.’

So, how do I follow him? Response: by letting him lead… V24- ‘… anyone who intends to come with me has to let me lead.’

Want to know how to let him lead? simply invite him, ‘then hand over every every as the oga @ the top…’ And his leading is awesome.

ok. Another striking thing:

V26- ‘ what kind of deal is it to get everything you want but loose yourself? what could you ever trade your soul for?’… Real life most dreaded question… to me as well…

V27- ‘ don’t be in such a hurry to go into business for yourself. Before you know it the son of man will arrive with all the splendor of his father accompanied by an army of angels’

well, what should I do when its very obvious that the society cares less about me? who does the me-business?

well, He sure does, with or without my acknowledgement… and I’m grateful… and he’s a good husbandman, a good care taker and lovely leader

(contd)’… you’ll get everything you have coming to you, a personal gift.’… that’s his promise… his good word

Hope you’re blessed by the bible? The very living word of God!




Can all the “please” in this world achieve this?

Can we stop this ‘battle of the sexes’?

It’s not a man’s world… It’s not a woman’s world… It is God’s world.

Yes! It is his world and he has let everyone, even the devil to live in it. Then why do we insist on killing each other in a place that does not belong to us? A place we know Little or nothing about its creation by the way? Fact is, we have even annoyed God severally, yet he has allowed us to co-habit in his world. Why then won’t we let each other live? Could we live and let live?

I’m not talking about terrorist attacks or Money launderers here. I’m speaking about males and females accepting and embracing the existence and the greatness of each others’ sex.

Men are not BEASTS

Women are not WITCHES

We are beautiful creations of God made to complement each other. I’ve heard a lot of ‘burn the man to death’ and ‘the woman should be disgraced and stripped naked’ to cry out a loud NOOOOO!!! It should not be so please.

Love solves this issue! Yes!

Do what you can as much as you can to all the People you can. No Need to hate. If they decide that you are friend/ acquaintance/ spouse worthy, good. If not, good too, then let go. Let’s not let some people that have agreed on joining the devil’s campaign to ruin God’s world to ruin us too.

I could rant all day on this issue but please let’s Keep life simple, “do to others what you’d like to be done unto you by others.” Don’t use People, use things( enough has been said on this already). Appreciate it when People help you and help others as much as you can. It all boils down to Love. Love everybody as you would love yourself to be loved( even if you hate yourself at the Moment).

Best still, learn from God- if he hasn’t pursued us from his world despite our “arrogance”, let us let others live, love them and let them be.


Thanks as you try

God bless you.

Love is serious… love is not sex



sex is pure

it is ecstacy

it is enjoyable and worthy of longing

it’s easier to stop before you start

and can hardly stop once started

it has no greater words to define it

than just sex


it is what it is

it entails a lot

it justifies itself whether in

the beginning, the middle or the end

it’s easier done than said

nothing else like it

nothing else to express it


whether between the opposite sex

or between the same sex

or even alone with yourself

it sure has its effects

joyful or sadenning

ecstasy or plain guilt

depending on you


it’s best kept sacred

as sacred as holy

best between two people

that have become one

  • a blessing of oneness

unless so

it is never fulfilling


it  can never be casual

no matter how hard we try

to pretend otherwise

once after the act

you feel fulfilment when done in the right

or disaster when done in the wrong


it is so and shall remain so

it was before us

and will remain after us

we should hence play by the rules

‘keep it sacred and holy’

‘let it be joyful and glorious’

it is for the married


the fall, the despair, the anger

that arise after done in the wrong

the guilt, the distrust, the evil

that can never go away from

sex done in the wrong

can only go away when sex’s done in the right

with the right person at the right time


it is said

the word so sacred

the deed so pure

the act so misused

can mar you or bless you

depending on your chouice

mine is sure, ‘leaving it as it should be’

A Night on the 3rd Mainland

It was a beautiful day. It had been from the beginning. Nigeria was celebrating her independence day. It was the first of october.


I had spent my day at home but left in the evening to close the glorious day at a film festival. A lovely festival it was indeed with beautiful pictures, cocktail and all, and then, the night began. I left for home, or at least, I began my journey back home.

It was some minutes after 10pm when I got to Obalende to board a bus for Ketu/Mile 12. Well, it was probably some minutes after 11pm when i actually saw a bus to board. It was mindblowing what had happened before me; people were flying into buses from any available entrance and private vehicles were not spared in the massacre of bus seats- people were desperate to go home. While this seems normal to some people, it isn’t to me as I am not a Lagosian.

After we had left, some passengers began to haggle with the driver on his N150 bus fare, and they insisted on paying N100. So, our dear driver, provoked, stopped on the 3rd mainland bridge and decided to collect his N150 before continuing the journey. wow! It was shocking to me that a human could be so mean; what if something had happend?

And then something happened: immediately after he had begun the journey again, one of his bus tyres ruptured (:ouch!) Then, I checked and it was some minutes to 12midnight. We alighted for him to change the spoilt tyre before recontinuing oncemore. While he was unto the repair, I distracted myself a little bit to notice the beauty of light in the dark(indeed, it is beautiful).
I noticed that vehicles still plied that road despite the late hour of the night/early hour of dawn.
Then, I confirmed that the water (ocean) under that bridge has an awful smell.

In conclusion, I arrived home some minutes after 12midnight. So, this, my people, is how I watched over my country while she marked her 53rd anniversary till dawn.

I’m a patriotic Nigerian. Are you?



#DIsclaimer: I am not an employee of any church community neither am I dreaming to run one. I’m just a full blown christian using my God given freedom to speak on my view on the usage of church money.

It’s a pity that it is now common to hear negative comments against the church community- ‘this pastor is just using our money for personal business’ ‘that pastor is cruising with our tithe’. True as it may seem, please if you are not spell bound in a place, leave there and relocate. Yes! go somewhere else; where you would be comfortable with whatever mode of conduct they operate with. While you are at it, read my view on church money usage hehehehehehe


The church I now belong with is a mega cool church. It rocks inside-out; you know, like that description of a virtuous 10/10 babe (at least that is how it is to me). You could actually take a day off and decide to lounge in church(aside ‘spiritual’ matters). It is comfortable, down to the rest rooms, with security guys watching over your stuff…


So, with this is mind, we agree that money is needed for it’s maintenance, right? Why then do we ‘blindly’ complain about the misuse of church money. Do we not see the ‘lush’ before us (that is if your church is anything like mine winks)? That even when we flee the ‘heated mosquito nights’ and run to church for different ‘vigils’, we actually enjoy cool nights in church as a result of the beautiful workings of the AC down to the toilets? Do we not feel guilty when we don’t contribute to foster stuff like this yet freely enjoy them?

People of the church, it is not like you are given an amount to offer in church, neither are you compelled to offer anything at all. It is actually a give as you can stuff; but when we want to use it, we use it as we can and never complain of misusing church things. Infact, it is at points like this that we claim full membership of the church(like seriously). We know we would pay heavily if it were a hotel or stuff like it. Why do we let material things come between us and God? Well that question is actually between you and God.

As for me, I know where my church money goes. It goes to the maintenance of my church facilities and the running of its organograms

our church nairas are being used well so stop the panic. lol.

On a more serious note though, I think we know all these that I’m ranting about but maybe, somehow, we just always  look foward to what/whom to transfer our aggressions; and because the church community is a representation of the body of Christ ( who would give you the left cheek after you have slapped the right…), we freely burst them there. This is unfair.

You that complain about money laundering in church, I thnk if you do not have a proof, please work on yourself and stop assuming that the society or the church is up against you. And for all of us in general, it might not be church money that is bothering us. It might be lesser or greater things, but let us work on the states of our hearts so that we can walk in and enjoy the liberty that God has called us into.

Let us not let worthless things burden us so that we can smile better and live healthier.

Like the pastor of that my rocking church will say, do one kind thing today and let God bless you.


(please if this does not concern you, do not embrace it)